Knowing me: Objective Judging

Sometime ago when I got to Incirlik Air Base, I took one of those personality tests that shows whatever traits I predominantly show.  Over the years, the top traits have rarely shifted; however, each attribute exhibits various rates of growth.  From this test, my top ten traits were

• Judgment, critical thinking, and open-mindedness
• Perspective (wisdom)
• Gratitude
• Curiosity and interest in the world
• Hope, optimism, and future-mindedness
• Love of learning
• Honesty, authenticity, and genuineness
• Appreciation of beauty and excellence
• Humor and playfulness
• Kindness and generosity 

Some folks are taken aback from the first trait exhibiting judgement and in retrospect,  I'm fairly straight-forward with assessing people, because I'm always analyzing them.  Unfortunately, I can only judge base on what I see and know, and with my open-mindedness, I'm a person that desires to know people's life story, desires, goals and put people forward towards them.

I am truly dismayed by the people who dismiss me at first glance because they know I'm actively judging them, but my judgement is for assessment of your character and principles.  Every new thing that you display to me molds my judgement of you to help me understand you better.  It's those people that get my cold stare because they were already closed-minded in the first place, casting the first stone before I could even begin.

I would argue that I display more of my second trait of perspective more, because I understand myself and when I judge, I'm just critical of myself as the people I'm assessing. I know that in the end, the judging, critical thinking, etc trait is the predominant trait, because I think all the time.  However, with wisdom, I can dis spell the terrible effects of negative judgment and come out knowing that I use all ten traits to frame judgement end game.

This is how I exhibit judgement, as objectively as a I can everyday.  I know I come off as a cold-hearted analysis, but those that stick around that can accept the initial foray of an analysis of yourself then can then see the 'whole me'.  I know plenty of people who gotten the same vibe and came out thinking I had the greatest sense of humor ever.

The worse thing is initial judgement, and I've seen people rush faster than I do nearly everyday.  I know people tell me about other people and how they are and what I should watch for, but in the end, I reserve judgment with an open mind.  That is the difference between objective judges like myself and those that lack the fortitude of making judgement on knowing people.